Do you ever feel like you’re back in high school?
Not the carefree ‘I don’t have to think about the real world yet’ high school.
The darker side of high school. The cliques, the mean girls, feeling like you’re a square peg in a world of round holes? The politics and drama. That high school.
I’ve got a pimple just thinking about it. Eugh.
As adults, we can continue to experience insecurities about our identity and talents, that may have started in high school or even earlier, but we’ve built up defences to not let them bother us so much. Which is handy, as we don’t really have the time or energy to spend it crying in our rooms, listening to mixtapes!
But we’re not in high school anymore. We should not be afraid of being authentic and celebrating our talents. We do not have to spend time with people that make us feel small and stupid. It’s time to break any bad friendship habits that are holding you back.
You can’t do epic shit with basic people.
Step 15 is all about choosing positive energy over those high school feelings of rejection, exclusion and low self-esteem that can creep into our adult lives and breed self doubt and fear. It’s time to let all that negative crap stay in the past, where it belongs; creating the space for your passions and epic projects to shine brightly.
And how can you do this?
By finding your tribe
It’s so important to spend time with people who genuinely get you and celebrate you for all your quirks and idiosyncrasies. When you have a conversation with these people, you leave feeling happy, supported and valued. Even if they are scattered across the world and you don’t see them for years, they are out there and they love you.
Yeah, they may challenge your thoughts or tease the hell out of you now and again, but it’s out of genuine affection for you, not malice or jealousy.
Who is in your tribe? Picture their faces.
Are you smiling yet?
Your tribe lifts you up at the mere thought of them. These are the people you need to exchange your time and energy with. Not those who suck the life out of you like a Harry Potter-esque dementor.
It truly is the most liberating moment, when you can walk away from people who don’t support and value you.
Step 15 (Re)connect with your tribe.
Now, we all think of ourselves as pretty connected. We know who just got a new job, what our friends did over valentine’s day and what their kids looked like in the school play. We may think of our tribe often, but real connections need time put into them – personal time, not a click or a like here and there.
So right now, think of someone in your tribe who you haven’t spoken to in a while.
- Arrange a visit.
- Call them.
- Skype them.
- Write them an email or snail mail letter.
They’ll be thrilled to hear from you and you’ll nourish and support yourself in a way no food ever can.
I’m thinking of one of my tribe right now. She’s as weird as I am and makes me feel awesome!
Happy soul sharing,